Actual Opinion

Monday, 14 January 2019

To Make a Wife Happy

In one of the night during the recitation session, our guru taught his disciples to always be making a wife happy. Because in a family, it is a wife who is trusted by Allah swt to hold a trusteeship, which is having pregnancy, delivering a baby and rising up offspring. Not a husband.

Then, our guru was also suggesting his disciples to only have one wife. The opinion from several ustadz and contemporer ulem nowadays are suggesting for polygamy, having more than one wife as it is part of Sunnah from Rasulullah saw is infact a lie. Allah swt and His messenger were never asked the moslem people to have more than one wife, because that would lead to a sorrow and suffer on a wife who has been being poligamy by her husband.

وَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلَّا تُقْسِطُوا فِي الْيَتَامَىٰ فَانْكِحُوا مَا طَابَ لَكُمْ مِنَ النِّسَاءِ مَثْنَىٰ وَثُلَاثَ وَرُبَاعَ ۖ
فَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلَّا تَعْدِلُوا فَوَاحِدَةً أَوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُكُمْ ۚ ذَٰلِكَ أَدْنَىٰ أَلَّا تَعُولُوا

“And if you fear that you will not deal justly with the orphan girls, then marry those that please you of [other] women, two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then [marry only] one or those your right hand possesses. That is more suitable that you may not incline [to injustice].” (QS 4:3)

As for several persons, they tend to the sentence of “then marry those that please you of [other] women, two or three or four” from the above berse. But on the other side, the persons who has faith and doing sholeh deeds, they tend more on the words justice from the above verse and the sentence of “That is more suitable that you may not incline [to injustice].” Those are things which closer to be careful and saver for the life on earth and next after life.

Based on this, then our guru alerted his disciples of not to do injustice against their wife. So, be enough on one wife, then make her happy as much as they can.

So, then please stop! No more making proposition and use the prophet sunnah as the reason to do polygamy. What was done by the prophet saw is to overcome the wound and unfortunate circumstance on his society at that time. The similar condition is never happened again now. So, do not do injustice and hurt the wife’s heart based on the reason from religion. (AK/ST)